I’ve been on Gillmor Gang for a few months now and until recently thoroughly enjoyed the experience. It’s controversial, intelligent and fun. Steve was wonderful to include me. Yesterday however I resigned from the show, on air, when Steve pushed me on my ongoing participatioin.
The reason I resigned is that Steve has invited Nick Carr on the show “whenever he wants to attend”. Nick’s been on two shows now. The first one I quickly dropped off, the second one, yesterday, I stayed until the end. I have a problem with Nick. I think he’s smart but he’s often overly cruel to people in his posts, people who sometimes aren’t in a position to defend themselves. I get the sense that he enjoys pulling people down, gets happiness out of it. He shows all the classic signs of a bully – he talks big on his blog but on the phone he’s a meek, submissive guy. He can’t stand up to people who stand up to him unless he’s hiding behind his blog. Guys like Nick are a dime a dozen on the Internet and until now I just basically ignored him. But I won’t be on a weekly podcast with the guy. If Nick is on the show, I’m not on it.
Long ago I made the choice not to associate with people who are mean to others. They can attack me all they want (Jason Calacanis does, and he’s on the show, and I have no problem with that). But when you are mean to other people it just makes my blood boil. It probably comes from watching too many kids get picked on in junior high.
I wasn’t going to write about this, I don’t want or need any more controversy in my life and frankly this isn’t that important to me or anyone who reads this blog. But clearly a fight is coming to me. Nick posted on his blog about it. Steve at first said he’d edit out my resignation and keep things quiet. But now he says he’s keeping it in the show. Valleywag is pinging him for the details, and it’s clear that Steve wants to set up a three ring circus around the situation to generate “attention” for the Gillmor Gang. I’m sure he’ll get that attention.
Some people are going to think this is all because Nick called me a whore a while back. It’s not about that – I get called lots worse every day. But that was when I first noticed his blog and started to read him. And what I saw wasn’t pretty.
This is the last time I’ll comment on this.
And by the way Steve, this doesn’t affect our friendship, and you are now on the party wiki list as promised.